New Year’s Resolutions that are NOT Losing Weight

Happy New Year! (and a bit!)

I don’t mean to do a new year’s resolution every year but it’s difficult not to look back on the past year and re-evaluate where you are compared to the same time a year ago.

And I know that I’ll get cynical criticism from everyone I talk to. “Well why didn’t you start this new thing/hobby/lifestyle/diet/interest years ago? You can’t be that serious about it if you’re only starting it now as a new year’s resolution.”

Well, to all the Negative Nancies out there I say this. “The only bad time to start a new thing, is when you’re not inspired to do it.”

I actually had a great New Year’s Day this year, instead of feeling sorry for myself I decided to go and get inspired. I wanted to pick a New Year’s Resolution that wasn’t to do with loosing weight or getting healthy so I searched for ideas and here are a few…

Learn a language

Being half Filipino, people are always asking me if I speak any other languages and the only answer I can give them is “umm, GCSE French?” and actually I’ve forgotten most of that. I’m always jealous of people that can speak multiple languages and have always been made to feel like there are two sorts of people in this world, those that are good at languages, and those that are beyond hope. Well, boo to that. This year I’m going to try and become at least vaguely familiar with Tagalog. If you have any sure fire tips on learning a language, let me know what they are.

Be more social

I need to get out more. It’s so easy to get back home and relax and catch up Netflix. However there is a point where you (and by you I mean I) have to make a concerted effort to get out and socialise and explore the city (or town) you live in. I’m going to try and make it to at least one meetup or event a month outside my social circle. What have I got to lose?

Be more creative

I’ve been speaking to a few people recently about how they used to be really artistic but now they literally can’t put pencil to paper because of anxiety they feel about perfectionism or associated memories when drawing. I almost cried on their behalf, art shouldn’t be about being perfect or something to be afraid of. I love the #draw365 project. The idea is you sketch something every day for 365 days. Even if it’s a little doodle on a napkin, no one is going to judge you and it’s such a simple resolution to try. Even a photo every day for 365 days would count towards being creative and you’ll find yourself looking for beauty in your everyday routine.

If you’re more of a writer or an aspiring novelist, you could set yourself a word count to reach every day. Stephen King sets himself a 2,000 word count every day but you can start small if that feels daunting or if you feel like you have no time. If you don’t think you have a book in you or you don’t feel like you can make things up, then maybe have a go at blogging!

Learn a party trick

What’s your party trick? If you’ve ever been a contestant on a gameshow then you’ll know and either love or dread this question. I dread this question because I don’t have a party trick and like languages, I’ve always thought that these sorts of things were for The Blessed, a.k.a. The Talented. This year I might give something a go and with the internet at our fingertips, you can learn some pretty unique things. Beatboxing, finger tutting, juggling, croupier skills, magic tricks, cocktail flaring…so many ideas, the only problem is finding the time to to it all. Dedicate a small amount of time each day, break down the skill into elements to master and immerse yourself in it.

Set yourself a challenge for the year

Challenge yourself to read a book a week. If you don’t have time to sit down and read, then you can listen to audiobooks. It’s not cheating, it just makes sense. I’ve always got a few books on the go and audiobooks can be listened to when you’re walking, cleaning or cooking. It’s a brilliant incentive to breeze through your chores.

Save some money every day

I’m really bad at putting money aside to save, and I think I know why. When I do put money into an account to save, it’s always a relatively larger amount than I’m comfortable to put away and it makes me feel bad. So I avoid saving. I think I’m going to play a game this year and save a really small amount every day. On day 1, I’m going to put away 1p, on day 2 I’ll put away 2p, day 3…3p and so on and so on. I will try and do this every day for the year and by this time next year I’ll have saved £667.95 if I’ve done my maths right. At most I’ll have put away no more than £3.65 on any day. I think I can cope with that.

Be the sort of person you always wished you were

I always find myself saying “I wish I was the sort of person who drank water all the time” or “I wish I was the sort of person that could just go into a room and talk to people” and even my friends tell me they wish they could sew or cook or wear their hair long or be more feminine. Well you know what? You’re not born with all the skills, qualities or attributes you’ll ever have. You can be more feminine, be kinder, go eco-friendly, go vegan and yes, even drink more water. The wonderful think about a new year’s resolution is that you give yourself permission to do it. And that’s what being an adult is all about. Yes our upbringing shapes us into the adult we start off as but ultimately we get to decide our own form and shape. So you want to be the sort of person who wears bright coloured lipstick for fun? Do eeet.

 

Whatever you decide to do, pick something that inspires you, that you’ve always admired when you’ve seen the skill or quality in other people and that you genuinely wish you started years ago. If you do this, then there’s a higher likelihood that your New Year’s Resolution won’t be one of the ones to fail. Kick start the year with all those awesome positive aspirations but don’t beat yourself up if you loose the passion for it.

What are your New Year’s Resolutions? Let me know in the comments below…

New Year, New Blog

Hello and welcome! If you haven’t met me then… Hi! I’m Genevieve. Welcome to The Vive Edit, my new blog about living a more purposeful life.

 

I’ve run a few blogs over my blogging life; I co-founded a “thinkers blog”, an entertainment blogazine and also a (very) casual fitness and lifestyle blog. I uploaded thousands of posts about all sorts of things.

 

All of this has taught me one thing. Less is definitely more.

 

When you begin blogging, it’s like shouting into a vacuum; it’s great when you get a retweet or someone shares your post. You interview a celebrity or two, go to premieres, meet your heroes and possibly get a scoop. It’s lovely to start getting emails from strangers, PR professionals and brands marketing their latest products.

 

Then you get your details on a media database and you become swamped with press releases. You go to events created specifically for bloggers where you’re spoilt rotten, fed canapes and liberally doused with cava thanks to the free bar. You’re pampered and given freebies and somehow your content becomes more and more product focussed and you begin to find that the scoops become less frequent, everyone’s publishing the same content and you have a mountain of products that you feel obliged to review.

 

You end up with a mountain of things. so many things that you have to find inventive ways to give away promotional teddy bears, sweets, pens and pencils and pots of pesto that you’re given. I know what you’re thinking, “urgh, another blogger complaining about free things. There are bigger problems in the world.” And you’re right. And as I was trying to write about products when there were other bigger issues at stake in the world, that’s when it began to become difficult to write and remain enthusiastic.

 

Back to stuff.

 

Your dwelling becomes a chronological to do pile and your calendar and inbox has become a to do list. Somehow you have 7 inboxes and some of them have over 10,000 emails. You feel pressured to colour code your instagram and have rose gold and marble everything, you collect props for photos and you leave things you’ve bought in their wrapper because you haven’t get around to taking photos of them yet.

 

It becomes less about your flair for communicating your thoughts via writing and blogging gets boiled down to how pretty you are or how colour coordinated you can make your instagram. People start telling you that their blog is “a microblog on insta” and you later learn (through a process of them repeatedly following and unfollowing you) that their 200k followers is an artificially inflated amount. Suddenly the tabloids start to talk about bloggers or “influencers” as reality TV show contestants.

 

The more and more involved in the blogosphere I became, the crazier it got and the more hectic my life became. Trying to balance my career as an actress and voice over artist with my day job in an office is difficult enough, add a crazy blogging schedule on top of that and it’s a recipe for a burnout. And I think I had one.

 

So what is The Vive Edit?

 

The Vive Edit is about editing and curating your life. From objects, to things in your calendar and things that clutter your head, It’s a practical minimalism journey and if you’re still reading this then you’re truly amazing and I hope you stick with me on this journey.

 

For the past few years I’ve been telling my friends I am trying to go minimalist. I think I’ve actually not been describing it correctly as what I’ve really been trying to do is go minimalist, but in a way that suits me. I mean, I like stuff, stuff is great and sometimes it can enhance your life. However it can also be a burden and needlessly add physical and psychological pressure on you. Likewise, being busy is wonderful, being entertained even better, but when you’re so busy you mind is constantly working and it’s stopping you from sleeping or relaxing, then you know it’s time to simplify and make tough choices about what you’re filling your life with.

 

So The Vive Edit is about finding simplicity in your life without being too simplistic. It’s about minimising without being a “minimalist” and it’s about living deliberately without losing all the spontaneity and fun if life.

 

What to expect?

 

Learn from my mistakes, live vicariously from a walking typing disaster. Expect to find mildly self deprecating humour and an honest journey into finding the right philosophy.

 

Also expect exciting finds, tips I pick up along the way and the very occasional, very selective review.

 

If you have any tips, let me know at @theviveedit on twitter